By Jody Melbourne
The "command and control" approach to keeping children safe from online Cyberbullying is doomed to fail in this age of social networking. Parents need to adopt a high-vigilance, low-touch approach when supporting their children to survive the epidemic of Cyberbullying that is sweeping Australia and many other countries. Last year, South Australian police revealed they were receiving reports of Cyberbullying on an almost daily basis.
"Cyberbullying" is a term coined to describe the age-old practice of schoolyard bullying extended online, using technology as a tool to harass an individual. Examples of Cyberbullying include spreading nasty rumours by email or online postings; publishing online or emailing embarrassing photos or videos; making abusive comments online; and even threatening or intimidating someone online.
Rapid technology uptake by youngsters has extended bullying from the playground to the online environment. While the core bullying behaviour remains the same, the spread of playground bullying through technology to social networks is causing rumours to spread much faster.
As a result, the impact of bullying online can escalate very quickly. The reach of these technologies is something that many parents cannot fathom. Rumours can spread faster than a bushfire. Once something is online, it can go global quickly and can last forever.
The biggest danger is potential damage to the self-esteem of an impressionable 
young person. Kids take things very seriously. Getting harassed about something trivial can be a living hell for a teenager. Not having someone to talk to is one of the biggest frustrations they face.
In one sense, because these are age-old playground problems that have always been there, they require the same ways of dealing with it: Awareness; education; warning children what to expect.
It is important to give kids freedom on the Internet rather than impose authority or try to limit them. The Big Brother approach is not going to work. It will only encourage them to subvert controls.
Parents need to partner with their children by understanding what sites their kids are using and why they are using them. Parents should encourage learning and exploration. Allow youngsters to take a few scrapes. Kids need to fall off the bike and skin their knees a few times to learn what to expect.
It is important not to throw out the baby with the bathwater. Cyberbullying is often presented as a threat from social networking sites or Internet messaging, but these are not the problem, they're just technologies.
The point is that kids are choosing to use these technologies to communicate with each other and share their social lives now. Parents need to understand what these things are, so they can talk the same language as their children. Being time-poor is no excuse. Parents need to find a slice of time to learn what these social networking sites are all about, so they can help their children deal with them.
What you can tell your children:
1. Expect duplicity on the Internet. Schoolyard bullying is amplified by technology, so untrue rumours and embarrassing photos can spread faster and further online.
2. Respect your own privacy and take care of the information you put online. It can go global in minutes and be there forever. It then belongs to someone else and it is out of your control.
3. Report any disturbing online behaviours to administrators of Web 2.0 sites such as MySpace or FaceBook. These administrators take misbehaviour seriously. You need to alert them about harassment and abuse so they can do something about it.
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Jody Melbourne is an Information Security Consultant for information security specialist CQR Consulting. CQR Consulting delivers independent information security services, without the need to sell computer hardware, software or other technology services. Jody has particular expertise in security and privacy issues for Web 2.0 technologies, such as social networking sites and instant messaging, which are embraced enthusiastically by youngsters.
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Don't forget that bullying is itself unacceptable
I'd say Jody makes some good points, especially around parental responsibility.
And yet to me his blog feels a little complacent. First and foremost, let's remember that with no exceptions, bullying is unacceptable. Schools, education departments and workplaces too for that matter invest major time and effort addressing it. So to compare bullying with the inevitablility of skinning your knees is to accept it. And to appeal to the idea that kids "need to fall off the bike" appears to me to actually condone bullying.
I'm also worried by the idea that "social networking sites or Internet messaging ... are not the problem, they're just technologies". The Internet as a communications medium is quantitatively and qualitatively very different from what's gone before it. The speed and reach of bullying online is obviously greater than what used to happen in the school yard and over the phones. But the damage done is deeper too, for cyber bullying can cause one's whole digital persona to be wrecked.
Technology cannot be blameless (unless one is in the anarchic "guns don't kill people, people do" school of thought). Remember that peer-to-peer file sharing was described by its proponents as just another copying mechanism, just like compact cassettes, nothing to worry about. But try the 'don't blame the technology' line on the music industry today and you'll get quite an argument!
We have unleashed some amazing and startlingly powerful tools with the Internet, and it's about time we acknowledged that achieving Internet safety is going to involve more than mere education. Just like road safety and almost every other risky caper in the real world, in addition to teaching people skills and awareness, we also need a concomitant ensemble of enforceable rules and strong standardised technologies that protect people from harm.
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keep your distance, but keep watch
The internet is a great tool for kids, and I think they should be able to explore it, as an informaiton source as well as a means of interacting with their friends. However, I'm a big one for keeping the computer out of the kids bedrooms and in a public space.
In the same way I wouldn't want them loitering at the local mall with people I don't know, I don't want them loitering online either. Yes, it's important to strick a balance between privacy and safety, and let kids fall over occasionally, but I like to keep watch from a distance, just in case they suddenly need help.
School Project.
Hey Guys;
Im in year 10 & as a part of my Aust. studies class; we have to research an major issuse.
I choose Cyber-bulling as you can see;
Im hoping that if they are any Parents, who use this site, they would give me there thoughts on this. As i know that Cuber-bulling affects not only the victims; but also their parents.
Thanks.
Jessimacaa.
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alright im 17 and i no my stuff about being bullyed and how to deal with my way of dealing with it may be a lot difent that what u want to hear but it works if some one starts saying something about u dont hide from it u never hide from it you go confront them as soon as u can take a few mates with you and go ask them what the hell there problem is and half the tim they will shut up because then have no back bone i never have started a fight but i have been in them because i dont like being bully and i wont back down to some kid that hangs out at the station all day if they start mouthing of to and trying to look tuff out wit them and say better thing than they are coz peopel that bullying someone else arnt very smart and dont think of things to say and when they punch destroy them and if you win the fight and this wont work if there scum but there a desent person they wont say about u again but if there scum and you no this maby reconsider coz they will bash you by your self but this is what i say to anyone who wont take **** and will stand up for them selfs only try these thing when you have lot of mates im saying this because im sick of people not sticking up for them selves
and my tip if your kid get bullyed put them in boxing or kick boxing
Not the best solution
Hi g radical
As the moderator of this site, I have to say I found you comment kind of disturbing. You're treading a fine line of inciting people to violence which is officially against our moderation policy. But you say you're 17 and have experience with bullying so I decided to leave your comments stand because I didn't want to shut you down.
A couple of points though.
1) Clearly I think you're wrong that rounding up your mates to go bash someone who's bullying you is a good idea. Likely to just get hurt, hurt innocent bystanders and make problems escalate rather than die down.
2) The blog you've responded to is about being bullied online, isn't one of the features of cyberbullying that you don't always know who's hassling you? Or in your experience do bullies always make their identity known (even if it can't be proven)?
Thanks
Sally Rose
this reminds me of a good 60 minutes story
It's from last year but I remember it to be very interesting:
http://sixtyminutes.ninemsn.com.au/article.aspx?id=444908
Cyber-bullying in schools
Schools today are required to meet an ever growing demand for access to information and communication technologies (ICT). Whilst all schools would attest that their most valuable asset is their teachers, the computer network is close behind in importance. Unfortunately the same advances in technology that allow children to encounter diverse learning experiences also leave them vulnerable to harm. Governments and schools must make every effort to provide a secure and safe environment for their students, whilst at the same time, maximising the learning experience. To that end, I applaud the National Filter Scheme as a visible starting point. Hopefully the recently announced national pilot project aimed at addressing cyber-bullying in Australian schools will go to the next level, because it is an unfortunate fact that filtering alone does not provide for the safety of children.The prevalence of removable media in schools and homes means that merely filtering web traffic, as valuable as this is, cannot by itself provide adequate safeguards against exposure to inappropriate material.
Moreover, filtering often fails to identify or prevent inappropriate, illegal, and even dangerous activity. In the educational environment these include threats to school and staff, hacking into the school network, cyber-bullying and sexual or racial harassment.
Teachers, and ICT staff describe the issues they are grappling with as:
Now whilst I agree with Jody Melbourne's suggestion that children need freedom on the Internet and that they need to be educated about what thay might encounter, I do not agree that "kids need to fall off the bike and skin their knees a few times to learn what to expect."No-one should have to expect to be bullied. Granted they do not need to be over-protected, but as Stephen Wilson said, let's not loose sight of the fact that cyber-bullying is never acceptable. I have seen first hand the emotional devestation caused to a teenager when exposed to a cyber attack.Yes, he might be stronger after the experience, but he should never have had to go through it and certainly should not have had to expect it.
To focus on the victims of cyber-bullying as a means of resolving the issue seems to me to be the wrong approach. Surely the process should be to focus on the perpertrators of the abuse and change their behaviours. Only then will the innocent be protected.
TheUnited States Europe provides a similar mandate to companies within the Finance industry.) These products monitor all computer activity and can be configured to filter traffic and trigger alerts when policies are breached.
When employed in the business sector, these products provide a layer of protection for confidential and sensitive information. When employed appropriately in the educational environment, they virtually stop PC and Internet abuse and increase student productivity. In relatively short time, they detect & eliminate bandwidth abuse, bypassing of web filters, student hacking and most importantly, offensive chat/email and online bullying.
Having trialled and deployed such solutions in schools, I can attest to the fact that appropriate activity monitoring, when used as an adjunct to existing web filtering systems, does assists in discouraging inappropriate or off-task activity.
Whilst there is a perception that such software imposes a “big brother” mentality, the introduction of network monitoring in conjunction with web filtering in the educational environment is easily justified on the basis that it assists in :-
Duty of care demands every effort be made to protect the students from exposure to inappropriate behaviours and content on computer networks, but it also implies that we make every effort to educate young people about appropriate behaviour and the responsibility that comes with access to today's technologies.
Rob Sieben has held a number of administrative positions in a career spanning twenty-five years in the education arena followed by senior positions in businesses within both the private and public sectors. Fundamental to his work has been an interest in providing a safe and secure learning environment for young people. Since leaving the school environment his work has been within the ICT industry, but still primarily with involvement in education as a consultant in matters of curriculum delivery and school network infrastructure.